You are in charge of you. Gen Patton said: Never tell anybody how to do something, tell them what you want done and they'll surprise you with their ingenuity. That said: Go out and be you go for what you want, never accept defeat as an option. WIN!
Patience child, patience. Remember, life is a journey. If you got everything you wanted all at once there'd be no point to living. Enjoy the ride, and in the end you'll see these 'setbacks' as giant leaps forward, only you couldn't see the bigger picture in the moment. Remain calm, all is within reach; all you have to do is show up every day, stay true to your path and you will surely find the treasure you seek.