Ur MARRIAGE is TOP #1 Priority; if NOT, the rest cannot exist! IT comes B4 family, career, school, bills, kids, home, car, travel, savings... MARRIAGE is wht floats ur boat thru all typhoons. It's frm where u draw ur strength! If u cannot kick ur spouse's ass into counseling w/u to SAVE it; ur all going dwn w/ship! Ultimatum time? If tht's wht it takes! U may lose all; or u may win all. TRY. @ least ur conscience will b free! Now, (WO)MAN-UP. SHOW up 4 the damn TEST!