I have always felt that the most important factor of judgement is love. This is why we accept Jesus Christ as our final judge--His perfect love qualifies Him to that position. If you do not love someone, your judgment of that person is inherently flawed.
I remember talking to you and saying ive never seen you before and your like actually we smoked together once. I knew I wanted to get to know you but i was shy. I now remember that day and everything we talked about. But then I was not attracted to you bc of your long beard. I am sorry. Bc now id love you no matter what. But it took you talking to me again to make me realize that