This goes both ways. Helping someone who doesn't try only enables them to continue to need your help. Encouraging them to find spiritual growth, that is the sign of true love. The sign you want them to be every bit of the person you see in them, and love.
Ask, and you shall receive! Do good and you will prosper. I wish you could've just trusted me and talked to me. But your friends matter to you just like mine matter to me. You have a small circle. While I have many small and different circle of friends