"Frequent Forgiveness" by Barbara Rainey; “Two imperfect people living together will need to forgive each other multiple times--maybe even each day....it [forgiveness] is grace in action—giving the person something he or she doesn’t deserve.” Click the link to read more.
Written from a Christian Perspective but very solid, even if you come from a different place. Dangerous, destructive behavior in marriage is frequently treated with ‘kid gloves’. Too often it’s not taken seriously until it’s too late. Where do you stand? Have you gotten comfortable with certain behaviors in your marriage that used to be called ‘sin’?