"Be authentic, who you are in the real sense, and good things will unfold. Nobody wants an actor or an actress as partenaire in life. Simplicity is as powerful as kryptonite: Lois Lane brings down Superman with her magnetism." f. wolff
But no, we teach our kids that they aren't smart if they don't test as well or learn as fast as another student. I'm always amazed that any child can feel confident in themselves within the standardized school system of today.