If you don't have peace, everything is going to feel out of place to you. You'll be agitated and frustrated. But if you find inner peace, you'll notice what irrational had hid. Maybe everything was in place and you didn't notice.
The best response to a narc is no response! If you must respond, show no emotion... This can be very difficult, but it will deprive him of what he wants most... A narcissistic payoff from your reaction/response.