"IF ye then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God. Set your affection (mind) on things above, not on things on the earth." Colossians 3:1-2. (Annotations are mine.)
Be the person you want your kids to be. Be the person people want to say good things about. Try to forgive even when an apology is never given. And I'm sure I'll never get an apology. It's ok though the past is the past and I've became a bigger person then I was 5 and a half years ago.