Talks to Have Now: "What's Going To Be Our Birth Plan?": There's no way to predict how labor and delivery will unfold (if only!), but it's important to discuss how you'd both like it to happen. "I assumed that my husband would be happier watching sports on TV than doing breathing and meditation exercises with me, but it turned out I was totally wrong," says Sarah Espanol, of Long Island City, New York. Put your wishes on paper so you'll have a document to share with your ob-gyn or midwife.