Thankful for growing from my struggle. This is how I try to be every day, but you have to allow yourself to break some days in order to truly be thankful for the gifts a horrible illness can actually give you. ;)
Odd thing is...the words I've used are beyond the scope of her vocabulary and I literally saw her get lost in conversation. However, I told her in the most plain English I could, but it still didn't matter...it's all about her pain.