I wonder what it feels like to be someones first choice... I use to think this all the time b/c I was the awkward, tall, loud, blunt, a tomboy and never anyone's first choice... and then my now husband pursued me. He chose me. And we're living our happily ever after! Sometimes you have to stop asking what you need to do to change yourself to find someone who will pick you first, and just be you... b/c the more time you spend not being you, the harder it is for your match to find YOU!