Beth Chatto's Gravel Garden. Allium Nigrum and a very wide selection of allium bulbs in the UK, try Bloms. Cool colors in a hot garden: allium Nigrum is planted with veronica 'Kapitan', stachys byzantia, and a cristophii.
But they don't take you seriously when you're young and they steam roll you. Think they know best and they made poor decisions. So I'm a hippy but an uptight well researched one. And they paint that sort of woman as unreasonable but I was very prepared and clear about what I wanted with Immy and you never know what may happen- and did happen- but it wasn't upsetting or disappointing it was a bit scary but I knew my wishes were being respected etc so an entirety different matter