Ex husband used to project on me his narc ways and tell me I was a narc because I would stop talking. Most of the time it was because I was too upset and hurt, and because he would say such disgusting abusive things to me i just wanted it to stop. I would have to resort to locking myself in a room in an attempt to stop the physical and verbal abuse, or flee the house altogether.
Emotional and verbal abuse is no joke. The scars are brutal. But healing begins to come with time and A LOT of hard work and prayer. One breath, one step at a time. Keep moving forward. You were made for more.