My Male BFF & I have had this conversation so many times - all the ways that Men are pressured to Conform. It does them as much harm - AND it rebounds on how they perceive & treat Women: a nasty vicious circle we're All trapped in until we start to THINK DIFFERENTLY & ACT ACCORDINGLY. In essence it is very simple: start treating other people, everyone you encounter, with The Same Respect that you want for yourself. 'Do As You Would Be Done By'. It would Change The World !
Yeah see this is why I don't like Snape. Maybe it was all for love but there was absolutely NO REASON for him to be this awful to a little kid. Yeah sure if he had been the chosen one instead of Harry then Lily would've lived. If Neville was the chosen one and Alice died for him, Lily and James would get tortured into insanity. Even if that didn't happen they in the Order, James was a blood traitor and Lily was a muggleborn so that wasn't going to end well either way