Red Flag #15. Cannot put themselves in your shoes, or anyone else’s for that matter. You find yourself desperately trying to explain how they might feel if you were treating them this way, and they just stare at you blankly.
Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers by Chris..........That's why I choose not to have children, being a child of a narcissistic mother , then a husband and mother-in-law, I didn't know what to call it then but I do now!.. It as taken me years to heal...............
The narcissistic family tree. In healthy families, we encourage our children to be loving & close to each other. In narcissistic families, children are pitted against each other & taught competition. There is a constant comparison of who is doing better & who is not. Some children are favored or seen as the golden child & others become the scape-goat for the parents projected negative feelings. Siblings in narcissistic families rarely grow up feeling emotionally connected to each other.
A narcissist mother is emotionally immature, the child has to take care of her. The needs of the narcissist mother come first and are like the needs of a hungry baby bird. "Feed me, feed me" the narcissist mother cries to its child, instead of caring for its child's needs, the mother is like a vampire feeding on the child.
Narcissists constantly lie, exaggerate, and distort the truth to make you look crazy, abusive and bad. They provoke and bully, and do everything in their will to make you lose your temper in front of family and friends. They want you to look bad, whilst they act the victim. This tactics is called: Projective identification and Baiting. It's deceitful and treacherous.
Reminds me of my Narcissistic Mother In Law and how her adult children's are always turning a blind eye towards her bad behaviour. My narcissistic mother in law got all her adult children to worship and fear her.