Narcissists constantly lie, exaggerate, and distort the truth to make you look crazy, abusive and bad. They provoke and bully, and do everything in their will to make you lose your temper in front of family and friends. They want you to look bad, whilst they act the victim. This tactics is called: Projective identification and Baiting. It's deceitful and treacherous.
Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers by Chris..........That's why I choose not to have children, being a child of a narcissistic mother , then a husband and mother-in-law, I didn't know what to call it then but I do now!.. It as taken me years to heal...............
Let them *think* they are winning and then keep your PEACE. Time here on Earth is so minuscule in comparison to eternity... unless you are being physically or deeply mentally harmed, tell your Ego to shut up and then let it go. Those who really know you will write off the bs.
You've probably tried everything you can think of to help this person, but in the end we have to come to an acceptance that it is an almost impossible task. They may one day become so downtrodden and wonder why their life is so bad and then seek help. So you staying and propping them up will not really help them one bit.
Life change- not going to tolerate rude abusive people anymore!!! I am worth far more than their worthless, trashy, useless words!!! It's too bad some people have to bully and put other people down just so they can feel better about themselves. PATHETIC!!!!! I am learning to not be such a people pleaser anymore. Rude people are toxic, and I have no room for them in my life!
Unfortunately, the most bad luck I've had is out of people I've called my friends, who mistook "confidante" for "whipping post." If you must keep them in your life, set healthy boundaries and be a good example of a healthy person! If they continue their behavior, cut them out before they drag you deeper. You deserve happiness, and no friend/mother/father/aunt/uncle/sister/etc who loves you would go out of their way to hurt you, bring you down or make you feel ashamed of your happiness.