Manipulative people latch on to empathetic targets and exploit their innate qualities. They find people who are easy-going, gentle and kind - who avoid conflict and seek to make others happy. The Problem: They reciprocate none of these things. Instead, they feel entitled to your constant forgiveness and self-blame. If you set boundaries or say no, you will be punished for reacting to their abuse. Toxic people constantly look to blame the victim.
Narcs’ disregard for others goes far beyond simply not caring very much about them to purposely wanting to hurt, exploit, manipulate, and that makes them capable of the most serious kinds of relational abuse.