"If I could go back, I wouldn't spend so much time worrying about the messes and the obsessive compulsiveness and needing to be so in control," Kate admits. "I would spend more time nibbling little feet and cuddling up. I worried about so many things I just didn't need to be worrying about when they were still so young, and I came on way too strong. I should have just rolled around on the floor some. I wouldn't have melted down as much."