The most effective ways to respond address the four most common reasons children are disrespectful, rude, and smart-alecky or back talk: • They didn’t get what they wanted, • They are angry; they feel disrespected, so they think it’s okay to be disrespectful, • They think it’s funny; as a joke, • They think it’s okay, because they hear their friends, other adults and/or people in the media talk that way.
If only I had known years ago! I did read in a book that parents either always allow arguing or never allow disagreement which is bad too. Need to find middle ground. I know I've gone to far in allowing the arguing. Which means she'll be just like me! :( God help her! Learn How to Stop Your Child from Arguing with You - Empowering Parents