I said over and over I wanted to make it work. He said, (88/23) before our 1st date...that he would "never be the one to break up." Later I realized that he very much meant that and, that what he would do is behave so badly, be so mean... so abusive emotionally & verbally that I would have no choice but to leave. But, still to this day he gets to say "I didn't break us up." It's pretty sick.