More like 15 things a poor communicator will refuse to speak up about in a relationship. I mean yeah, you shouldn't have to constantly ask for them to do a nice thing for your, but if refuse to ask for things you want from your partner, then you have only yourself to blame when you're not satisfied. This is a sure way to end up breaking up/divorcing. I could also get into how stupid some of these are ("his gentle manliness" lol!!) but I'm too tired.
you're so hard on yourself. take a moment. sit back. marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that wisened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. despite everything, you still grow. be proud of this.